Specimen Magazine

2006-03-24T11:27:00.000-08:00

Finding drunks in a bar -- what are the chances?

Thu Mar 23, 9:57 AM ET

Texas has begun sending undercover agents into bars to arrest drinkers for being drunk, a spokeswoman for the Texas Alcoholic Beverage Commission said on Wednesday.

The first sting operation was conducted recently in a Dallas suburb where agents infiltrated 36 bars and arrested 30 people for public intoxication, said the commission's Carolyn Beck.

Being in a bar does not exempt one from the state laws against public drunkeness, Beck said.

The goal, she said, was to detain drunks before they leave a bar and go do something dangerous like drive a car.

"We feel that the only way we're going to get at the drunk driving problem and the problem of people hurting each other while drunk is by crackdowns like this," she said.

"There are a lot of dangerous and stupid things people do when they're intoxicated, other than get behind the wheel of a car," Beck said. "People walk out into traffic and get run over, people jump off of balconies trying to reach a swimming pool and miss."

She said the sting operations would continue throughout the state.

2006-03-19T20:40:00.000-08:00

Study Looks at All the Lonely People

Sun Mar 19, 5:06 PM ET

SUNDAY, March 19 (HealthDay News) -- More than a third of adults say they are lonely, especially people in their 40s, a new study shows.

U.K. and Australian researchers conducted 30-minute phone interviews with 1,289 adults in the state of Central Queensland, in Australia.

They found that 35 percent of the respondents said they were lonely. People aged 50 and older had the lowest levels of loneliness. Levels of loneliness began to rise at age 20 and peaked between the ages of 40 and 49.

People with strong religious beliefs were less likely to be lonely than people who had no such beliefs. Women were more likely to have strong religious beliefs, which may explain why women reported lower levels of loneliness than men, the researchers said.

Retired people were less likely than unemployed people to be lonely, and there was a link between household income and loneliness -- people with lower incomes reported higher levels of loneliness.

The researchers found no significant association between loneliness and how long a person lived in their current community.

"Understanding what makes people lonely is very important, as loneliness can increase the risk of health conditions, such as heart disease and depression, and other problems such as domestic violence," researcher Professor William Lauder, of the University of Dundee in Scotland, said in a prepared statement.

"One of the most interesting findings in this study is that it challenges the belief that retirement is linked to diminished social contacts and that people get lonelier as they get older," Lauder said.

More information

The American Academy of Family Physicians explains emotional health.

2006-03-06T09:43:00.000-08:00

The Easiest College Pick-Up

by Xaneus

When you are in the cafeteria, look around. Chances are there is an attractive girl eating alone. Walk over to her table, and ask to join her.

She'd have to be the world's cruelest witch to refuse you.

Once you're sitting and she's eating, you have a captive audience. It's easy to start a conversation from here. Then, when it's time to go, you ask her for her number.

Don't be afraid if she looks busy either... after all, who wouldn't rather talk to a sexy guy like yourself than study?!

Try this! It's almost too easy to believe.

credit sosuave.com

2006-03-02T07:40:00.000-08:00

Do men need body like a Rock?

Women don’t think so even if some guys do

By RIVKA BUKOWSKY
DAILY NEWS WRITER

Think your girlfriend wants you to have a body like Arnold Schwarzenegger or The Rock?

Guess again.

American men increasingly have a complex about their bodies, incorrectly assuming the ladies prefer musclebound physiques, a study in the American Journal of Psychiatry found.

Researchers from the Massachusetts-based McLean Hospital showed pictures of different body types to male college students in the U.S., France, Austria and Taiwan.

Participants were asked to choose the body they would like to have, and the body they thought women in their country would prefer.

According to the study, the average American and European man thinks women prefer men carrying 20 to 30 extra pounds of muscle. But Western women polled actually said they preferred average-sized men.

Taiwanese women also don’t prefer muscular men, but Taiwanese men correctly guessed their preference.

In Asia, the muscular male is not the ideal, the study said. But Western men, bombarded with more and more ads featuring bulked-up physiques, feel pressured to build muscle.

Two percent of Western men have full-blown body-image disorders, the study said, while there are few cases in Asia.

Steroid abuse is another problem mostly confined to Western countries. Men trying to look like the pretrial Jason Giambi are wasting their time, the study said.

For the average American woman, brawn doesn’t matter. The ladies on the streets of New York confirmed that yesterday.

Originally published on February 2, 2005
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/gossip/story/276942p-237244c.html

2006-02-26T11:54:00.000-08:00

The Real Players

by Vassago

Personally, I think the player has a better chance of finding a long term relationship. He meets more women so he has more options to choose from, he has more game so he can get the one he wants, and most importantly, he doesn't come from a place of need.

I know that when I was hooking up with a lot of women I always had long term relationship options. But when I decided to settle down and find someone special, everything seemed to dry out.

I have met all of my past loves at times when the last thing on my mind was a girlfriend. Women can smell neediness a mile away, and I think that is the biggest factor.

Of course there is also social proof, the challenge of taming a bad boy, the primal attraction to a dangerous man, etc., that all adds to the attraction. But at the same time if you go over the edge and become too much of a male slut, it will come back to haunt you.

I have noticed that the guys who get the highest quality women are those guys who you can't really put into a category. Guys who have one woman all of the time, and that one woman changes every couple months, until they find one that they can totally connect with. They always treat these women well, but they don't settle for anything less then the best.

These are the real players. You'll never know it by talking to them, but you will hear the women talk about them because they are dying to be the next in line.

The Long Term Relationship- The Women's View

2006-02-11T14:25:00.000-08:00

Just as a child who isn't getting enough attention will act up to force their parent to give them what they need...women will do the same thing. That is why women test their boyfriends and start pointless fights...it's their way of saying "I need you to give me more attention." And although the dating "rules" tell you not to give women more attention...that rule doesn't apply in a LTR. You DO have to meet the needs of your partner to have a successful relationship just as she needs to meet your needs for sex. Finding the proper balance of the affection and attention you give is the key to satisfying your partner's emotional needs without smothering her. I'm going to share the most simple way to determine what the right balance is for your relationship.

If your partner is testing you, picking fights or doing anything to force you to give her more attention, then you are not fulfilling her core needs. Gradually increase the level of affection and attention you show her...but only slighty. Continue to do this until the testing and fighting stops. The point at which the testing and such stops is the perfect balance she needs to feel loved. Do not go beyond this point in affection/attention because then you risk giving her more than she can handle, which is just as bad as not giving enough.

Remember, feeling loved is to women what sex is to men. You have a clear understanding of how bad it is for a woman to ignore a man's sexual needs. It is equally as bad for a man to ignore a woman's emotional needs.

Source: SoSuave.net

How to live longer ?

2006-02-09T07:47:00.000-08:00

A day have 24 hours, an year 8760 hours.Have you ever asked yourself how mutch time do you realy do what you want durring a day ? I asked myself this question, and the results were bad.I found that durring 24 hours i realy live only a few hours (about 12-14).

I wrote this article on 08.01.2006.I think that we are in a new year and from that year already 8 days are gone.The time pass by so quickly, but let's come back to the title.Have you ever asked yourself how mutch time do you spend eating, sleeping, and doing other "time-eaters" stuff ? I studied a little my time and find out that i spend a lot of hours beeing lazy, sleeping to mutch, and i wasted a lot of time.So i decided to maximaze my time.

So until now i sleept 10 hours a night, so that 10 hours are a waste of time, because
we sleep practicaly we don't do anything, just waste time.I decided to sleep less, so i started to wake up earlyer.Now i sleep 5-6 hours, and i feel great.I have more time to do a lot of things.I started to earn 4 hours a day.4 hours just for me.

Let's make a little calculus !

4 hours x 7 days = 28 hours

What do you say ?! Sleeping only 5 or 6 hours help me earn 1 day and 4 hours to do what i want.Now i feel i live mutch more ! Think how many day's you can earn in a year, day's just for you YOU.

Source: http://necromanc.blogspot.com

"How To Be A Nice Guy And Still Get Laid"

2006-02-08T14:14:00.000-08:00

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"How To Be A Nice Guy And Still Get Laid"

-- by Mike Pilinski --

(c) 2005 Kipling Kat Publishing Co. -- All Rights Reserved
http://www.highstatusmale.com

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I suppose I could have titled this article "Why Do Women Show
Absolutely No Romantic Interest In A Nice Guy (Like Me) Even
Though They All Claim To Want To Meet A Nice Guy (Like Me)?"

Whew! Well, maybe not. It sure is tempting though -- because
in my unexpected career as the internet's new "Dear Mr. Abby",
I've gotten some basic form of that question many times over in
the past few months, and I'm getting sick of it. So in the interest
of suppressing my e-mail a little bit, let me show you my theory
of why it is that nice guys are scorned by women everywhere,
and how to get around this social handicap without having to take
night courses in "How to be a Jerk" at your local community
college (although I hear they ARE a great place to meet sexy
young women... ;-)

I'm sure you know the infuriating mantra that you've heard time
and again from women --either in person or on all these stupid
afternoon talk shows: "...But Oprah, there's no one to date out
there, all the guys are all such jerks and losers. I just want to
meet a nice guy..." Oh how they love to whine.

Well if you consider yourself to be the "nice guy" these women
swear they're looking for, but you strike-out with all but the very
lowest end of the female food chain anyway, then you know what
royal bull**** this declaration really is. Nonetheless -- despite
the fact that most of the feral women (18-35) actually date &
screw the drunken lowlifes and pricks they claim to hate -- they
seem determined to drill it into our heads that this happens
ONLY because the right "nice guy" hasn't come-a-stumbln' into
their life yet. Rrrrr-ight.

Ok, here's what's REALLY going on. As usual, women are
talking in code. (They are famous for this).

When women imagine "nice guys" in their minds, what they're
really dreaming about is a guy who makes them feel SAFE... but
in a very *special* sort of way that preserves his male sexual
attractiveness. Actually, this is not very mysterious when you
think about it from the *female* perspective. To a woman, a
safe guy means ONLY that you're physically harmless -- nothing
more. In terms of what you could do to her emotions, well...
that's a different story.

This blend of hot n' cold, exciting n' boring, safe n' dangerous is
what she is REALLY searching for -- this is what she *lives* for.
It's what she thinks of as having 'chemistry' with a guy.

The problem with being overtly nice or lap-doggishly friendly and
accommodating with women is that it communicates the worse
kind of SUBLIMINAL message to them. (P.S. Everything
IMPORTANT that goes on between men and women in the early
stages of all romantic-sexual encounters is always
communicated NON-verbally. Words may be the power tools of
seduction -- but it's what you DON'T actually say with words that
will make or break you!). Anyway, this lousy subliminal
messaging is the key to why nice guys rarely get laid.
Here's why:

'Nice-guy' behavior is NOT something that women see you as
"switching on" in their presence like some well-meaning but
fumbled attempt to impress them. Instead, they believe that
you've been TRAINED (yes, like a f***ing dog) by other, *more
powerful* men in your world to act this way!

In other words, 'nice guy' is how subservient men have learned
to act in the presence of stronger men in order to protect
themselves from harm ("I am no threat to your status as the
more dominant male... please don't hurt me... let me be your
harmless, lovable side-kick..."). To women, then, "niceness" is a
screaming red flashing signal of LOW MALE STATUS, and
therefore...

...it is an ENORMOUS TURN OFF to them!

This is why they can't develop any sexual energy (i.e., chemistry)
with nice guys, and with good reason. Nature has hardwired the
female brain to seek out the most powerful male to mate with in
order to produce the strongest offspring with the best chance to
survive. It's the same reason why men have been hardwired to
chase after women who display physical signs of youthfulness
(because youthfulness = reproductive success, or viewed the
other way around... old ladies = reproductive failure... i.e., no
eggs left in the carton, to put it bluntly). While male and female
ACTIONS may be completely different, their GOALS remain the
same -- strong healthy babies to carry forth the species. This
is so because "maleness" and "femaleness" are really just two
different but complimentary STRATEGIES for reproduction -- and
men and women are compelled to behave differently in order to
executed these dissimilar strategies on one another.

You see, Nature doesn't care about hurting people's feelings -- it
cares ONLY about reproductive success in order to keep those
precious DNA molecules traveling forward in Time. The dance
of mating & seduction -- in all creatures -- is linked inseparably to
this biological imperative. Go against it and you're flying in the
face of millions of years of evolution (or maybe its design, who
knows?). Learn to play by it's rules... and you will win!

* * *

Anyway, being the correct sort of nice guy to women really only
means being someone who is A) safe, and B) a guy that she
would NOT be embarrassed to show off to her family or close
(judgmental) friends. Understand that there's a lot of latitude in
there between a kiss-ass wimp and a complete psycho. Your
job is to find that happy middle.

* * *

Alright, some practical application of theory. It's difficult to
describe exactly how to go about handling the issue of being a
nice guy, but here's my best try...

You never want to ACT like a nice guy around women, but...

...you always want to SEEM like one.

Can you get a sense of what I'm trying to say here? The
problem with being nice is TRYING to be nice, instead of just
LETTING it happen. You can't come across as an *obvious* a
nice guy -- you just have to drop enough hints around women so
that you SEEM like one. Never, *EVER* broadcast your nice guy
potential to women like it's something that you're proud of!
Yeeesh!

Here's a few examples of what I mean:

1) When you first meet a woman that you're attracted to, you
must establish a NON-verbal line of communication in a way that
provokes stirrings of instinctual mating thoughts in her
subconscious "deep" brain. In other words, you need to
transmit your interest in her in a man-woman sexual-potential
way *without* actually speaking any words to that effect! Nice
trick, eh? Actually it's easy... two ways in which you can do this
are with extended eye contact and brief, non-offensive touches.
Both casual, but unmistakable in their true meaning to her.

2) Drop HINTS about you're capacity to be a nice guy, but don't
demonstrate it -- otherwise you will come off like a complete
kiss-ass. Do this by A) slipping in suggestions of having strong
family-friends relationships in your life (a sign to women that
you're "connected & normal"), or B) that you have something
exciting going on in your life -- either at work, as a hobby, or
perhaps a recent adventure of some kind.

Here's an example from my own experiences. I used to work for
a photography company. Sounds exciting, eh? Not really. The
amount of time I spent with a camera in my hand was less than
5% of the total time I was there. I mostly did boring lab work and
mechanical "McGuiver" tricks to keep a lot of old, over-used
equipment up and running. But maybe a half dozen to 20 times
a year, I got to fly around in light planes shooting aerial pictures
around the Western New York area for various commercial
clients.

So when I'm chatting up a girl, sometimes I'll work in a quick little
anecdote that's drawn from one of my old flying jobs. Like how
the snowpack collecting on Lake Erie forms such beautifully
colored cracks in the greenish ice sheets during the height of
mid-winter. But I make nothing more of it, all very nonchalant...
and I DON'T fully explain how I came into the position of flying
around the area and making such an observation in the first
place. Is it through work? A hobby?... What am I involved in
that would give me an opportunity to view this natural wonder?
Business travel? What?

She's at least a little bit curious about me now, but she's not
comfortable asking questions since I've just rolled over the
subject quickly and she doesn't really know me well enough yet.
Besides, (and this is important to understand) she LIKES not
knowing! Mystery! Intrigue! I've suggested to her in an off-hand
way that I'm a productive guy (safe & normal) who's into
SOMETHING that's kind of fascinating and possibly making me
good money -- but without revealing too much about what it is,
and especially NOT explaining every last detail in the droll,
somewhat braggartly way that is the hallmark of the boring-as-
hell nice guy.

You can drop hints about family ("connections", i.e. I'm not a
lonely, desperate hermit) or whatever in a similar manner to
show her that you're an okay (nice?) guy without piercing the
delicate bubble of MYSTERY that must envelope every
seduction.

Now you're "in like Flynn" in terms of getting your foot in the door
to her heart (this is only Step 1 remember). Why? Because
she's made the determination in her *subconscious* mind
(where it really counts) that you "seem" like a nice guy beneath
an otherwise dominant male presentation of yourself, and that
piques her interest immensely.

You are a rare encounter in the universe of men that breaks
down into either sappy, boring "nice guys" or worthless (but,
alas, exciting) pricks. Your stock has gone up at the moment it
matters most... that make or break moment OF FIRST
ENCOUNTER. No matter what "flaws" you might otherwise
imagine yourself to have, you have become interesting to her in a
way that AT LEAST she'll never categorize as friggin' "nice".
NOW you have a shot!

And you can move on to Seduction Steps 2, 3, 4, etc. with the
confidence of a High Status Male!

Mike Pilinski is the author of "Without Embarrassment: The
Social Coward's Totally Fearless Seduction System"... a unique
method of meeting girls that will have you making up for wasted
time spent living in shy-guy hell from the very first moment you
test it out. Check it Out Here => http://www.highstatusmale.com

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Retarded Ejaculation

2006-02-07T14:45:00.000-08:00

Retarded ejaculation stems from over-masturbation. Yes, contrary to popular mainstream MISCONCEPTION, there actually IS such a thing as masturbating too much. Some here have said that it's due to being too accustomed to the feel of one's own hand, but this problem is far more complex than that. The problem has to do with over-masturbation causing the depletion of various hormones and the interruption of normal functions of the prostate, testicles, and liver. Hormones such as prostaglandin 1 and 2 (aka PGE 1 and PGE 2) play a vital role in sensation and stimulation necessary to reach orgasm, among other hormones. In fact, an intervaginal ejaculation rich in these prostaglandins will drive a woman WILD when it hits her cervix just right because it doubles up with the prostaglandins in a woman's vaginal secrections. However, when these and other necessary hormones are depleted in a male body, orgasm can only be reached via rough masturbation with heavy pressure placed on the urethral nerve - a motion and a pressure that a vagina cannot simulate. When one brings himself to orgasm via this practice, it is not unlike overdrafting a bank account.

Source: sosuave.net